Ever caught yourself whispering, “Why is the universe doing this to me?”
That spiral of frustration when things go sideways—again—and you’re trying to make sense of it all?
It’s tempting to believe there’s some external force screwing with your life.
It gives you something to point at.
It gives you relief from the pressure of looking inward.
But here’s the truth:
It’s not the universe.
It’s your energy.
And no, you’re not being punished.
You’re not cursed.
You’re being shown something.
You’re being invited to take radical ownership.
Because the universe doesn’t play favorites.
It just reflects.
Why Blaming the Universe Keeps You Stuck
1. It Hands Over Your Power
Blaming the universe is spiritual outsourcing.
It’s giving your power away and calling it surrender.
But true surrender doesn’t mean powerlessness.
It means grounded responsibility.
If things aren’t shifting, ask:
Where am I still waiting for life to rescue me instead of meeting it halfway?
2. It Reinforces Victimhood
Victim energy is seductive because it feels valid.
You’ve been through things. You’re tired. You’re doing the work.
But victimhood locks you out of agency.
It leaves you waiting, resenting, shrinking—while still secretly hoping to be rescued.
Truth:
Victimhood and manifestation don’t live on the same frequency.
3. It Scrambles Your Alignment
Alignment isn’t always about feeling good.
It’s about your identity and embodiment matching what you say you want.
If your energy is laced with resentment, fear, or resistance…
You’re not bad, you’re just out of sync.
Think of it like this:
Trying to receive while blaming the universe is like trying to tune into music on a radio full of static.
The message might be playing.
But you can’t hear it clearly if you’re jamming the signal.
How Your Energy Actually Shapes Your Reality
Energy Isn’t Karma—It’s Congruence
You’re not punished for your patterns.
You’re just met by them.
If your core belief is “nothing ever works for me,”
You’ll unconsciously filter life through that lens.
You’ll miss opportunities. You’ll hesitate to trust.
You’ll shrink from the edge of possibility because your body doesn’t feel safe going further.
This isn’t a mindset issue.
It’s an embodiment one.
Emotions Are Clues, Not Curses
You’re not here to suppress your feelings.
You’re here to listen to them.
Anger, grief, frustration—they’re messengers.
But if you park in them and start decorating your house with their furniture?
You turn a moment into a home.
Let your emotions move.
Then decide who you are beneath them.
Consistency Matters More Than Perfection
Energy isn’t about intensity—it’s about repetition.
You don’t need to be high-vibe every day.
You just need to be congruent.
Congruence looks like:
Choosing aligned thoughts when fear wants to spiral.
Taking the smaller, safer next step instead of waiting for certainty.
Reinforcing your identity, not chasing the outcome.
How to Reclaim Your Power (Without Bypassing Reality)
1. Own Your Frequency
This isn’t about blame—it’s about curiosity.
Ask:
What energy am I bringing into the room?
Where am I waiting to feel different instead of choosing different?
What version of me am I reinforcing daily?
Every experience is feedback.
Not judgment. Just a mirror.
2. Shift the “Why Me?” Loop
“Why is this happening to me?” keeps you stuck.
“Why is this here, and what is it asking me to see?” creates movement.
Better questions open your nervous system.
They shift your lens.
Try asking:
Where am I out of integrity with what I say I want?
Where do I still expect something external to save me?
3. Regulate Before You React
Before you spiral into “nothing’s working,” pause.
Try this:
- One minute of deep breath
- A hand on your heart
- A single sentence of self-honesty:
“Right now, I feel… and that’s okay.”
From that place, make your next move.
Not from panic. From presence.
4. Stop Taking Redirection Personally
When things fall apart, it’s easy to assume you’ve messed it all up.
But sometimes, what looks like resistance is just recalibration.
A delayed launch might be making space for deeper alignment.
An ended relationship might be clearing space for a new level of self.
Don’t confuse pause with punishment.
Ask:
What part of me was forcing what wasn’t meant to stay?
5. Expand What Abundance Means
If you only define abundance as a dollar amount, you’ll always feel behind.
Abundance is space.
Peace.
Choice.
Sufficiency.
Self-trust.
It’s the way your body exhales after deciding you’re safe before the results arrive.
Start there.
Final Word: You’re Not Being Tested—You’re Being Invited
The universe doesn’t hand out report cards.
It’s not keeping score.
It’s not testing your worth.
It’s reflecting who you’re being—not just in your actions, but in your frequency.
So stop blaming it.
Start asking:
- Where am I still outsourcing my power?
- What would it look like to take full responsibility without making myself wrong?
- Who am I becoming right now—and what does she need from me today?
You don’t have to be perfect.
You just have to be present with the part of you that’s still waiting to be claimed.
Because that’s where it shifts.
Not in the sky.
In you.
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It’s not about the universe.
It’s about you showing up like it’s already yours.
