The Harder You Try, the More You Repel
Most people think that the harder they try, the faster they’ll manifest what they desire. But gripping and chasing? That’s exactly the energy that pushes your desires away.
Here’s the part most people miss: Manifestation doesn’t reward effort. It responds to alignment.
When you’re chasing something, you’re affirming to the universe that you don’t have it. And that energetic state of grasping, fixing, and micromanaging just gets mirrored back to you.
The Universe Doesn’t Mirror Your Checklist
You can journal, visualize, meditate, script, or vision board all day long, but if underneath it all, you’re anxious, doubtful, and scared? That’s what’s actually speaking.
- Refreshing your bank app 10 times a day isn’t a sign of trust in its security.
- Checking for signs constantly isn’t alignment, it’s hypervigilance.
- Saying affirmations through gritted teeth isn’t believing it’s control.
Manifestation doesn’t follow your to-do list. It follows your nervous system. Your state of being is the signal.
When Everything Shifted: A Real Story
In 2021, my husband and I were living what looked like the dream. We had just built a new home. Our crypto portfolio had soared into life-changing territory, tens of millions. Everything we had envisioned was coming to life.
Then it got stolen. All of it.
Not through a market crash. Through a targeted phishing attack that drained years of gains and generational wealth in a single blow.
I was devastated not just from the loss, but from the realization that no amount of mindset work, spiritual practice, or manifestation technique had “protected” us.
But that moment wasn’t a punishment. It was a rupture. An initiation. One that cracked open my grip on how life and manifestation were supposed to work.
Because here’s the deeper truth:
Manifestation isn’t just about getting what you want. It’s about becoming someone who can hold it, without letting it define you.
The Shift: From Control to Capacity
After the loss, I didn’t manifest from hustle anymore. I didn’t wake up every morning trying to “vibe higher.”
I started regulating my nervous system. I started trusting my energy again. I stopped pretending I had it all together and started living like someone who didn’t need to force a timeline to feel safe.
And slowly, everything started aligning again.
Realignment Isn’t Effort, It’s Embodiment
You don’t manifest faster by trying harder. You manifest faster by relaxing into alignment.
When your body believes something is normal, you stop chasing it. You stop hovering over it. You stop trying to micromanage the divine.
So if you’re stuck in that loop, doing all the things but still waiting, ask yourself:
- Am I acting from alignment or anxiety?
- Do I feel safe, or am I still gripping?
- Am I living as the version of me who already has it?
Because when you become the version of you who already lives the life you’re calling in, your energy starts to match what you’re asking for.
Try This Tomorrow
Instead of reaching for another manifestation hack, try this:
Wake up and act like it’s already yours.
- Move like the version of you who already has it.
- Decide like her. Speak like her. Feel like her.
- Let your body practice being safe in that version of reality.
This is how you anchor the frequency, not from thought, but from felt sense.
Final Thought: The Version of You Who Has It Isn’t Chasing
She’s not spiraling. She’s not obsessing over timelines. She’s not googling how to manifest faster.
She’s grounded. Regulated. Living.
That’s your job now. Not to manifest harder, but to return to the version of you who already trusts that it’s on the way.
Because the more you relax into alignment, the more everything starts to land.
And this time? You’ll actually be able to hold it.
