Let’s get something straight:
Manifestation isn’t blocked because you’re not “high vibe” enough.
It’s blocked because a part of you doesn’t feel safe having what you say you want.
And that part? She doesn’t need another affirmation.
She needs to be seen.
I know what it’s like to do everything right—vision boards, scripting, gratitude lists. To believe you’re doing the work and still feel like something’s not landing.
I used to perform alignment perfectly.
But I was trying to manifest from a version of me who still thought she had to earn good things. Who still believed that rest was laziness. That receiving made me vulnerable. That desire was dangerous.
That’s what shadow work showed me.
Because what’s in the dark doesn’t just disappear.
It steers the whole ship—until you turn the light on.
If you’ve been gripping your way toward your next level, this is your invitation to drop the mask, meet your edge, and start manifesting from wholeness.
1. Inner Child Journaling
You’re not scared of success.
You’re scared of what it means to finally stop proving your worth.
That’s your inner child—still waiting to feel chosen.
Prompt:
What did I need to hear more of as a kid?
Where am I still chasing that feeling today?
I didn’t realize I kept undercharging and over-delivering in my business because deep down, I felt like I had to “earn” being picked.
Once I wrote a letter to my inner child giving her what she needed, I raised my prices and stopped apologizing for taking up space.
2. Shadow Dialogues
That ache you feel when someone else gets the thing you’ve been waiting for?
That jealousy or anger that creeps in—and then gets buried under shame?
That’s your shadow saying: “I want more, too.”
Try this:
Sit down with a part of yourself you reject—jealousy, fear, control.
Write a conversation between you and that part. Let her speak.
Jealousy once told me she wasn’t toxic. She was tired of being ignored.
She was the fire behind my desire—but I kept silencing her.
When I finally let her speak, I realized she wasn’t petty. She was powerful.
And she wanted to help me go after more not less.
3. Somatic Shadow Work
Here’s the part most people skip:
The body stores what the mind avoids.
That tight chest when you go to post online?
That jaw clench when money gets mentioned?
That’s not “resistance”—that’s a trauma echo.
Try this:
- Shake for 60 seconds
- Exhale with sound
- Do 3 minutes of connected breath
- Touch your heart and just ask: “What are you holding?”
One night during breathwork, I broke into a sob I didn’t expect.
It wasn’t about the thing I thought. It was about feeling like I always had to hold it all.
When that release moved through me, I didn’t need more strategy.
I needed space.
4. Trigger Tracking
Your triggers aren’t the problem.
The silence after them is.
Every time you get activated and bypass it with productivity or positivity, you miss the portal back to your truth.
Mini Practice:
- What just happened?
- What emotion came up?
- Where do I feel it in my body?
- When have I felt this before?
I used to get irrationally upset when someone didn’t respond to a message.
The surface story? “They’re rude.”
The real story? A deep pattern of feeling invisible when I had needs.
The trigger didn’t need fixing. It needed presence.
5. Parts Work (IFS)
If you keep bouncing between over-efforting and burnout, there’s probably a part of you trying to protect yourself from disappointment.
And she’s doing it by controlling everything.
Try this:
Next time you notice sabotage or perfectionism, pause.
Ask: Who is this? What does she need?
I once journaled with my inner perfectionist and she said:
“I’m not trying to be difficult—I just don’t want you to feel shame if it all falls apart.”
She wasn’t trying to stop me. She was trying to save me.
That moment changed everything.
6. Story Rewriting
If you don’t rewrite the script, your nervous system will keep following the old one.
Old story: “I always get left behind.”
New truth: “I used to feel unchosen. But now I choose me first—always.”
I didn’t “manifest” better relationships by thinking more positively.
I did it by no longer chasing the people who mirrored my abandonment wound.
That shift didn’t just change my external results.
It changed my baseline of self-trust.
7. Mirror Work
Look yourself in the eyes and say: “I love you. I’m not leaving you. I see you.”
Sound dramatic? Try it.
Watch how quickly discomfort rises.
The first time I did this, I couldn’t even hold eye contact.
And that’s when I realized—I was trying to be seen by the world while hiding from myself.
This is real visibility. Start there.
8. The Projection Practice
You know that person who drives you nuts? The one who’s too loud, too confident, too much?
They’re showing you a part of yourself you’ve buried.
Ask: Where am I afraid to be like them?
I used to judge women who were bold in their expression. Deep down?
I wanted to be that unapologetic—but I didn’t feel safe.
Shadow work brought me back to my own bigness.
9. Rage Release
You don’t need to be more peaceful.
You need to get honest about how much you’ve been holding back.
Try this:
- Scream in the car
- Hit a mattress
- Growl and shake
- Let it all out, fully
The first time I let myself rage without shame, I finally understood why my energy was so blocked.
It wasn’t fear. It was suppression.
That scream made more room for joy than any affirmation ever had.
10. Shadow Integration Ritual
You don’t need to “heal” your shadow.
You need to invite her home.
Try this:
- Light a candle
- Write down a part of you you’ve been judging (e.g., jealousy, rage, laziness)
- Thank it for what it’s tried to protect you from
- Say out loud: “I accept all of me. Nothing is too much.”
That’s the moment your energy stops fragmenting.
And manifestation stops feeling like chasing—it becomes choosing.
Final Thoughts: You Don’t Need to Be More. You Just Need to Be All of You.
You don’t have to chase clarity.
You don’t need to force alignment.
You don’t need to clean up every edge of yourself to become magnetic.
The more of you that are online, the more your manifestations land.
Because wholeness is the most attractive frequency there is.
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